The only thing worse than being wrong is getting advice from someone who is wrong. But if I’m being honest, I’m wrong all the time. I infer wrong things, I presume wrong things, I interpret wrong things, I say wrong things, and I hear wrong things. And the people with whom I interact, behave similarly. It’s a truth of life.
Being wrong is going to happen.
So what am I supposed to do when the people I interact offer me advice with sincerity and genuine concern and love, and they’re wrong? Awhile back I went on a rant about some people I care about who had completely misunderstood a situation I was involved in that they knew nothing about.
You can see the full article here: Dealing With Offense
It hurt and I was angry. For a time I refused to receive any of it. Why should I? They were wrong. But that’s the thing, even though they had made a lot of wrong assumptions, even though they had presumed a lot of things by way of other people, even though they didn’t know the whole story, some of what they said was still true.
How would I ever be able to receive the valuable truths from God hidden within the confines of broken people with broken ideas who loved me and genuinely wanted to help me? I had to eat a big helping of humble pie, that’s how.
After a lot of whining and processing and crying and feeling like a victim, I finally had the sense to ask God to help me figure it all out. God’s answer: “humble yourself, see My truth”. Not an easy task, that’s for sure!
So, knowing that God is in fact the only stable and consistent truth I know, I asked Him to show me. I asked Him just to help me stop being angry, to stop feeling judgemental and victimized toward people I knew cared about me deeply, and just listen for God’s voice in it all.
Of course, the Lord answered my cries for help, and He began to walk me down the road of truth that could be found in all the words I’d been so offended by. Wow. He revealed way more than I thought He would.
I humbled myself before the Lord.
I humbled myself before the Lord. I acknowledged that God can and does use broken people to speak His truth. And I learned a lot. I learned people are wrong, but God is always right. He loves me and He wants what’s best for me. That means humbling myself to His truth and letting myself see His truth in broken human beings.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
and do not lean on your own understanding.
6 In all your ways acknowledge him,
and he will make straight your paths.
7 Be not wise in your own eyes;
fear the Lord, and turn away from evil.
8 It will be healing to your flesh
and refreshment to your bones.